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Consider Me Your Self-Sabotage Deactivation Coach

I strongly believe that in order offer a service with true passion and purpose, it's invaluable to walk the walk as a coach. While I offer Mindset & Empowerment Coaching, my desire to guide others is rooted in many years of abusing self-destructive patterns. Through gaining self-awareness, trial and error, seeking professional help, altering my thinking patterns and applying new habits to my own life - I've developed a formula to ridden self-sabotaging behaviors to live a more harmonious, peaceful and purposeful life. While I spent years self-destructing, I always thought the grass was greener on the other side. Since I've gotten out of my own way, the grass is green right here... where I water it!

What Is Self-Sabotage?

Self-sabotage stems from deep thinking patterns of low self-esteem and fear (mainly fear of failure, but there are MANY types of fear associated).  As an outcome, self-sabotage is a behavior in which one creates obstacles or intentionally interferes with an intended goal as a way to cope with the negative thinking patterns. A person who activates their self-destructive ways typically struggles with low self-worth, negative internal dialogue, and battles with their self-image.  

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I self-sabotaged my life for years and years until I finally said, I've had enough. 

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Outgrowing old patterns takes self-awareness, time, energy and intentional effort. That being said, I am still a work in progress. Sometimes it's easy to fall back into my old patterns (because it's comfortable). Yet, at times, I repel my old thinking patterns - because of my discipline and consistent effort. I wanted to change. My WHY behind eliminating self-sabotage was stronger than staying in misery and inauthenticity. I remind myself and my clients that choosing this path of self-improvement is a practice. It it takes time to develop.

Examples of Self-Sabotage:

  • Negative self-talk

  • Perfectionism

  • Intimacy struggles

  • Commitment issues

  • Addictive personality/behavior traits

  • Resentment and holding grudges

  • Overly critical of self & others

  • Substances abuse problems

  • Fearing failure to a point of avoiding trying at all

  • Quitting

  • Procrastination 

  • Self-medicating

  • Gaps between deep desires & actual action steps

  • Neglecting self-care

  • Difficulty receiving 

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... These are some simply examples. Let's get raw. Allow me to share examples of my own self-sabotage.

How Have I Self-Sabotaged?

- Binge drinking to suppress my fear of the silence and discomfort of sitting with my emotional pain

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- Not pursuing a goal/dream because I am afraid of what others will think if I fail

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- Gaslighting men that I'm dating or that I'm in intimate relationships with

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- Abusing exercise to create even more pain for myself to defeat suppressed emotions

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- People pleasing to a level of neglecting my own needs and desires to make another person happy (that includes bending my own values to meet another person where they are)

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- Holding resentment and anger for long periods of time to feel superior over someone else - another technique to avoid dealing with deeper internal depression

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- Participating in the victim-mentality act for attention

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... The list goes on! Any of this familiar within yourself or someone you know?

Are You Ready to Ridden Self-Destruction & Rise Up?

If you're ready to rise up and meet your best Self, let's connect.

If my words are speaking to you, and you're ready to leave self-destruction behind, 

then take my hand, let's do this together!

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